We all go through hardships. No matter how troubling they may seem, it’s just another part of life.
We all believe that these hardships are ‘life-changing moments,’ a problem that is usually overthought and exaggerated. Failing a test, parents yelling at you, getting rejected by your crush – they all seem like a life-changing moment. But in truth, they are just another inconvenience in your life.
Looking back, I realise how many hardships I’ve faced are inconveniences and not the life-changing moments I’ve seen them to be. My attitude and my mental health have caused me to overthink these hardships I’ve faced, putting me in places I never want to be in.
I’m not saying that everything is an inconvenience in our life, but usually, most of the problems we come to face are just inconveniences. We’ll all face these inconveniences – it’s unavoidable.
There are few things we can control in this world. One is our attitude and our mindset to life.
To tell the truth, I’ve really struggled with these things, and I’m saying it now – you can’t just change your mindset or your attitude overnight. These things take time to change, but in the end, it’s a journey you definitely should be willing to take.
My parents recently put a time limit on my phone, so now I can only use Whatsapp and Webtoon for 30 minutes each day. This really affected me, because I realised that I couldn’t communicate online with my friends like I used to. I thought this was a life-changing moment, but now I’ve realised that this is just another inconvenience I have to deal with. My parents think that my phone is a distraction and an addiction for me and that it’s the ‘problem’ behind my behaviour. In reality, I just really like communicating with my friends, and I find it difficult to talk to my family sometimes. In this situation, my attitude and mindset were out of line, and I’ve realised that problems like this are meaningless to some people. Looking back, I realise how stupid I acted and how unnecessary my actions were.
Life-changing moments aren’t like these small, meaningless problems. Life-changing moments are when your parents think you are depressed, when you find out you have cancer, when you get married. Life-changing moments are things that affect your life forever – they aren’t something that just goes away overnight.
From now on, I’m going to differentiate my hardships into inconveniences and life-changing moments. I shouldn’t be worrying about inconveniences in my life, and instead, see the light in the hardships I face. I know changing my attitude towards life in general, is going to be a long process, but I think it’s really worthwhile for me to start changing myself for the better.